From the post “How to Stop Caring So Much” at Thought Catalog:
“But there are ways to care less and to just be who you are. Being who you are doesn’t mean suddenly becoming a giant jerk to everyone you know but it does mean surrounding yourself with people who love you and weeding out the parasites.”
There is a lesson here for all of us about why it is important to balance caring for ourselves and caring for others. As I’ve said before, saying no or focusing on yourself does not make you selfish – in fact there are times, believe it or not, where this is a selfless act. You can’t help others effectively if you’re not taking care of yourself.
I think it is also important to keep in mind that sometimes you can care too much about something. Putting all your energy into one thing, relationship, or situation isn’t sustainable. Don’t care just because you feel you have to. Care about the things you want to. Care about what is important to you. And most importantly, care about yourself and don’t be afraid to be yourself.
During this holiday weekend, make sure to pause and do something for you. It may be a nice glass of wine, sitting in front of a fire with a good book, or taking a walk with family, but take the time to do it during what is often a hectic weekend of traveling, family, shopping, and eating.
Also, make sure to thank those in your life that love you and care for you. It is something that isn’t done nearly enough and is good for the soul.
For this long weekend, I’m driving to Chicago for the weekend to spend time with family and friends. I have a 7 hour drive with my dog ahead of me, but am looking forward to some time back to my hometown. I don’t get back that often, but it’s nice to have a few days to reconnect with my roots and also eat some tasty Chicago food. 🙂
I hope everyone has an enjoyable Thanksgiving and that no one gets trampled at any stores on Black Friday. Safe travels for those taking to the roads or the skies.
Be thankful. Take time for you. Share happiness.
Very well said – and so true! Safe travels and a very Happy Thanksgiving to you.